Experts like Robert Emmons, argues that gratitude has two key components.
- “It’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received.”
- “We recognise that the sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves…We acknowledge that other people—or even higher powers, if you’re of a spiritual mindset—gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.”
For me, gratitude starts with a shift of mindset.
At times, the world can be depicted as a rather negative place, thanks to the wide broadcast of media and recent events. And, as a result, I find that it can sometimes be difficult to reign in and remember the good in our day to day lives. No matter how small or big they may be. I feel this is where acknowledgement is key. Of course, I’m not saying that we should turn a blind eye to the negatives that are going on. I think we can actually use these to switch our mindsets to be able to acknowledge the good and begin our journey of gratitude.
I’ve found that tough times are what have actually pushed me to find the good; and I guess is why i’m writing this post today.
Throughout many of life’s learnings and lessons, I’m now at a point where my health, wellbeing and persona should shine bright, even if that’s just through my own eyes. One of the most important teaching’s I learn’t from my own family growing up, is that the people who surround you come with a green, yellow and red light. And, as a family, for us to be able to achieve the above, we’ve learn’t that we must move ourselves to be around the people of ‘green’. Green people are quite self explanatory. I see them as almost being able to feed your soul, organically. They’re happy for you, encourage you and support you. And in return, these are the people we want to equally do the same for. I guess other people may call these people your besties / loved ones. But, no matter what’s going on in your life, no matter how little, or often you have seen them, they’re always there. The ‘yellows’ and ‘red’s however, can be the people we learn from and aim to steer clear of. They will most likely not do the above, and instead almost ‘rinse’ your energy.
I’ve been able to learn from all three types of these people. I now know who is good for me, and these are the people I aim to show gratitude towards. I was recently sitting in my new work place, who are also great believer’s in the world of good energy and gratitude, and through a group meditation ‘silence’ session, I found my mind begin to wonder away from my usual work type thoughts, focus on slowing down my breathing and actually sat and thought about exactly what I was grateful for, with each person surrounding me in the room. I acknowledged their skills, kindness and supportiveness, and came out of the session feeling happy, well and refreshed. As cheesy as it sounds, the more you grow with age, the wiser you become about who is good for your soul, and I finally feel like i’m finding those ‘people’. Of course, this goes for friends and family outside the workplace too, but in that very moment, I thought about how lucky I was to be there. I recently found a phrase that I shared on my personal social media page and thought it was rather relevant to share here too:
“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower”.
Not to steer away from the concept of gratitude, but I thought about how important these words were. Many people go through life thinking and being told that ‘they’ are the problem. But, take them out of the environment they’re clearly not growing in, and watch them bloom! I’ve been able to take myself out of certain situations and environments, and would like to think i’ve proven this statement true. As a little inspirational guidance, whatever feeds you as a person, should be what you head towards – even if you have no idea of the outcome. Trust your instinct and go with it! Along my own journey, what I know is going to help me even further, is to practice gratitude like no other. I want to begin writing around 5 things down every day that i’m grateful for, so on those slightly ‘off days’ where our minds can get filled with a little darkness, I’m able to visually see what I have good in my life and hopefully reground myself and shift back my mindset.
Will you do this with me? Let’s start with today:
I am grateful for the fresh and delicious coconut I was able to drink from this morning, to re-hydrate me.
I am grateful for the loved ones that have surrounded me over the weekend, who I no longer get to see as often as I would like.
I am grateful for the fact that I am writing this in my warm and cosy bed, whilst it’s thundering and lightening outside (pathetic fallacy or what?!)
I am grateful for the sunshine I was able to witness today (before the rain haha). My skin is in need of some major vitamin D right now.
I am grateful for the man who taught me a little more about channeling ‘reiki stones’ and instantly felt good energy from him.
What are you grateful for, and how do you practice gratitude? The benefits of it in the long run are second to non. And I’m looking forward to experiencing them! Let’s start today and learn a little more about ourselves :).
Love, H x