Gratitude.

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Experts like Robert Emmons, argues that gratitude has two key components.

  1. “It’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received.”
  2.  “We recognise that the sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves…We acknowledge that other people—or even higher powers, if you’re of a spiritual mindset—gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.”

For me, gratitude starts with a shift of mindset.

At times, the world can be depicted as a rather negative place, thanks to the wide broadcast of media and recent events. And, as a result, I find that it can sometimes be difficult to reign in and remember the good in our day to day lives. No matter how small or big they may be. I feel this is where acknowledgement is key. Of course, I’m not saying that we should turn a blind eye to the negatives that are going on. I think we can actually use these to switch our mindsets to be able to acknowledge the good and begin our journey of gratitude.

I’ve found that tough times are what have actually pushed me to find the good; and I guess is why i’m writing this post today.

Throughout many of life’s learnings and lessons, I’m now at a point where my health, wellbeing and persona should shine bright, even if that’s just through my own eyes. One of the most important teaching’s I learn’t from my own family growing up, is that the people who surround you come with a green, yellow and red light. And, as a family, for us to be able to achieve the above, we’ve learn’t that we must move ourselves to be around the people of ‘green’. Green people are quite self explanatory. I see them as almost being able to feed your soul, organically. They’re happy for you, encourage you and support you. And in return, these are the people we want to equally do the same for. I guess other people may call these people your besties / loved ones. But, no matter what’s going on in your life, no matter how little, or often you have seen them, they’re always there. The ‘yellows’ and ‘red’s however, can be the people we learn from and aim to steer clear of. They will most likely not do the above, and instead almost ‘rinse’ your energy.

I’ve been able to learn from all three types of these people. I now know who is good for me, and these are the people I aim to show gratitude towards. I was recently sitting in my new work place, who are also great believer’s in the world of good energy and gratitude, and through a group meditation ‘silence’ session, I found my mind begin to wonder away from my usual work type thoughts, focus on slowing down my breathing and actually sat and thought about exactly what I was grateful for, with each person surrounding me in the room. I acknowledged their skills, kindness and supportiveness, and came out of the session feeling happy, well and refreshed. As cheesy as it sounds, the more you grow with age, the wiser you become about who is good for your soul, and I finally feel like i’m finding those ‘people’. Of course, this goes for friends and family outside the workplace too, but in that very moment, I thought about how lucky I was to be there. I recently found a phrase that I shared on my personal social media page and thought it was rather relevant to share here too:

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower”.

Not to steer away from the concept of gratitude, but I thought about how important these words were. Many people go through life thinking and being told that ‘they’ are the problem. But, take them out of the environment they’re clearly not growing in, and watch them bloom! I’ve been able to take myself out of certain situations and environments, and would like to think i’ve proven this statement true. As a little inspirational guidance, whatever feeds you as a person, should be what you head towards – even if you have no idea of the outcome. Trust your instinct and go with it! Along my own journey, what I know is going to help me even further, is to practice gratitude like no other. I want to begin writing around 5 things down every day that i’m grateful for, so on those slightly ‘off days’ where our minds can get filled with a little darkness, I’m able to visually see what I have good in my life and hopefully reground myself and shift back my mindset.

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Will you do this with me? Let’s start with today:

I am grateful for the fresh and delicious coconut I was able to drink from this morning, to re-hydrate me.

I am grateful for the loved ones that have surrounded me over the weekend, who I no longer get to see as often as I would like.

I am grateful for the fact that I am writing this in my warm and cosy bed, whilst it’s thundering and lightening outside (pathetic fallacy or what?!)

I am grateful for the sunshine I was able to witness today (before the rain haha). My skin is in need of some major vitamin D right now.

I am grateful for the man who taught me a little more about channeling ‘reiki stones’ and instantly felt good energy from him.

What are you grateful for, and how do you practice gratitude? The benefits of it in the long run are second to non. And I’m looking forward to experiencing them! Let’s start today and learn a little more about ourselves :).

Love, H x

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This is my great escape

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The beginning of 2015 has been a surreal one. Just 20 days in and I have experienced both highs and lows. With a plan to balance it out a little, my aim is to make sure the rest of the year is focussed upon experiencing the calm in life…rather than the qualms. I hadn’t been on a spontaneous adventure for a long time and last weekend just seemed the perfect opportunity to plan one!

After a few texts back and forth with my blogging bestie Sophie, the adventure had begun! Sophie offered to pick me up in the early hours of Sunday morning with the aim of driving to a near by (ish) beach. We had a few options in mind, however being from the Midlands, there isn’t anywhere that close. Consequently, having a true YOLO moment, we quickly came to the conclusion that our hours worth of conversations about going to Brighton, should be put into action. So, that was that.

The drive in itself took just under 3 hours from where we live. This actually gave me and Sophie the opportunity to really catch up on all life had thrown at us lately, and excitedly made plans to begin turning it all around. Our positive mind frames were really aided by the joys of some pretty appropriate tunage! We sang, we laughed, we lived. And then we arrived!

Pulling into Brighton gave me the first good butterfly feeling i’d experienced in a while and just couldn’t wait to park up! After gasping at the rather extortionate parking rate, we shook it off (coincidently whilst we listened to Miss Taylor Swift, ha), and made our way to the Sea front! We strolled through the famous Lanes, oo’d and ahh’d at the cute little cafes and soon became in awe of what was in front of us.

Breathing in the Sea air and just looking out onto the waves, instantly made me feel at ease. For me, the Sea is a natural pick me up, which always seems to lifts my spirits. After taking it all in, we took some much needed memory snaps and walked along the Pier. With the fast approaching smell of hot doughnuts and crepes, we thought it would be rude not to indulge. So, after a quick sugar kick, we felt energised enough to go back to our childhoods and let loose in the Arcade, where we had some hilarious dance mat moments! (Lets just say I wasn’t happy about my chosen footwear that day). LOL.

Considering i’d never visited Brighton before, I felt at home. The day bought all the good feels and was ended with a beautiful Italian meal. Walking along the Beach also made me feel grounded, and I began to really appreciate the talents of other people. The art, the crafts and everything that was being sold around the area, seemed humble and true to their creative processes. Which to me, was quite refreshing to say the least.

Despite only visiting for the day, it had put me in a great frame of mind for the commencing week and plan on going on another adventure very soon! Even Sophie said it had been the best day of 2015 so far, so here’s to the rest of it! Roll the snaps:

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Introducing Rosalina Nacken | Luxury lusting!

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With Valentines Day commencing shortly and a number of luxurious items catching my eye, I wanted to bring the new Rosalina Nacken collection to your attention! If you’ve read my recent luxury Christmas lust list, or watched my recent Youtube Video, where I took part in ‘The Fashion Tag’, then you will certainly know how much of a fan I am of high quality, statement, accessory items! Within ‘The Fashion Tag’, I actually stated how Phillip Lim was my current favourite designer, in regards to his heavenly designed handbags…yet I may very well have just found myself a new one.

Rosalina Nacken is a new discovery of mine, and a quickly ranking favourite! Rosalina specialises in luxury Italian leather handbags with combined tablet pouches, named The ‘Shelle Classica’ & ‘The Shelle Futura’ – ‘A two in one elegant solution’. Perfect for your everyday needs, these beautifully handcrafted bags, ooze Italian couture, which, lets face it, would excite any Fashion enthusiast! I would adore something so practical, as an addition to my everyday working outfit. It’s sleek, chic and sophisticated look gives it that professional feel, which would not only impress visually, but would make my organisational necessities much more of a joy to sort out!

Personally, with an on the go, day to day working life, I couldn’t think of anything better than carrying around with me something so aesthetically and practically functional. I find myself struggling on a daily basis, whilst attempting to fit in my much needed iPad/life, as well as my diary, various other means of technology, and of course, my little makeup bag! I dislike purchasing bulky bags & really need something easy and exceptionally organised, where I can quickly pull out an item with ease and efficiency, so, something like this is sure to be my number 1 item on my next luxury lust list.

Rosalina’s website is also a pleasure to navigate around. With background stories about her passions behind the innovative design, a link to her online store and a full description & video showcasing her exquisite, enriching and inspirational ‘movement’ idea, plus more…Rosalina quotes – “Move your life and life will move with you”. To me, this evokes a clear, intelligent and simplistic idea about the forever changing environment, which many professionals and on the go Ladies will know all about! Consequently, I am sure this new concept of Fashion and function will excite and intrigue, and has certainly caught my eye!

Do make sure you keep an eye out for my up & coming Valentines lust list, where this will be sure to show, and if you’re aware of any new designers, which you have found to ooze qualities of innovation, yet still acknowledging todays Fashionable needs and styles, let me know, I’d love to see them.

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Festive decor within the boudoir

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It’s not every year that I have to have a little Christmas tree in my room, mistletoe above my bed and fairy lights all around my ceilings, however this year is different. Myself and my family have lived in our cute little cottage for just over a year now, so it would be rude not to festively fancy the room up a bit…after all, cottages are just so cosy at Christmas, especially with its doll like size (which suits my little 5’2 frame perfectly).

My mom adores interiors, design and creating that nostalgic, snuggly feel within our home, and i’m pretty sure i’m following in her footsteps. I can’t wait to have my own home to decorate and create a beautiful atmosphere within, so in the mean time, I will just have to do so in my bedroom. If you’re interested in seeing those little personal touches that we all like to create for ourselves to look at, and be around, then do read on to see what I have done at this festive time of the year.

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I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, and enjoy being in the comforts of your home with family and friends! Oh and before I forget, I have to tell you that me and my lovely little sister went out especially to buy the perfect Christmas Yule log, for my mom and dad to monch this xmas day…to then find that after an hour of bringing it home, our dog ATE IT 😐 – I am less than impressed. Merry Christmas beauts! Watch those pesky animals now! Haha.

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